Sympathy Sentiments

Do you hear yourself saying?

When I have enough money, I’ll…
When I go on vacation, I’ll…
As soon as I find the right partner, I’ll…
When the house is clean, I’ll be able to…
When I can afford a better car, I’ll…
When this project is over, I’ll…
As soon as I get more clients, I’ll…
I can’t leave work, or I’ll…
When my kids are grown and moved out,I ll…

How much of your life do you put on hold?

During coaching sessions, people share their “I’ll’s” with
me all the time. The most popular justifications are that
they are waiting waiting for the money or the time to
magically open up.

Tracking the reasons over a ten year period and finding the
bottom line truth, people aren’t hungry enough to do what it
takes to find or create the money.

I’m sure you have accomplished many things in your life
without money. Thus, why would you believe that these I’ll
can’t be on that list as well?

There are five elements involved with achieving prosperity.
Money only one of them. Energy (sometimes mislabelled as
power), love, time and success are the other four.

Belief underlies this whole process. The belief that you
need money to accomplish whatever is on your list. The
belief that there are no other options. And so many more.
What are your beliefs that are placing your “I’ll’s” on your
hold list?

And excellent question. However, until you are aware of
what’s on the list, and they are a true want, you don’t open
up your vision to their possibilities.

The biggest time I was aware of this in my life was some
years back when my father was very ill. He said to me, “Go
after your dream, don’t wait for anything.” I’m sure you’ve
heard that as well somewhere in your life.

Discussing that further with him, I realized that I didn’t
know what I wanted. So I thought. I soon realized that
that wasn’t it at all. I just didn’t believe it was
possible to “really” live the way I wanted. Since then, I
travelled for a year all over the world, attending and
teaching at conferences, attending universities, and even
personally studying with well-known writers.

And how it all came about was still an awesome miracle to
me. Most of the adventure paid for by someone else, or an
organization. But I had to take risks, at least they were
big risks to me. Sometimes I didn’t know how I was going to
get there or back, where I was going to sleep, or what to do
in between destinations. In every situation, every
instance, things appeared that still leave me spell bound.

And it all began with a little trust and belief. Since this
time other amazing adventures appeared, including studying
with some of the most amazing people in the world.

Can this happen for you? You bet it can. Dr. Wayne Dyer,
Donald Walsh, and Deepak Chopra, three I now call friends,
tell you all about it in their books and lectures as well.

What underlies all this? One thing — our belief system.
If you believe you must have money in order to do something,
then you will need to. You closed the window to
possibilities. If you need all the answers before you
start, you will get exactly that, waiting on all the answers
to appear.

Have you given up on one of your “I’lls”?

As children, we don’t understand adult situations. We hear
this and that and when there are gaps, we toss in whatever
is available from our warehouse of experiences. We usually
carry this learning experience until we seniors. And there
is an awakening when we realize there are less years ahead
than behind. A new wisdom emerges.

Until…you…

1. Ask new questions when these beliefs saboteur your
success. This is examining that belief. When this occurs,
it is important to ask these valuable questions:

(1) What is the belief? You need to name it to claim it.
Many times, we don’t want to own that belief — we avoid
the ownership. This denial dances around until we can no
longer stay behind the way. Until it gets bad enough…
we’re broke, eating our loneliness away, and other
destructive habits. Learn to name it, this automatically
starts the change, then take it one step at a time from that
point. Don’t look jump the ocean. Stick your toe in the
water. It s cold water and you need to get used to it a
little at a time. Give it daily conscious thought. Just by
doing this alone, you build the boat that will cross the
ocean.

(2) Does the belief serve me any longer? Did the belief
serve you when you were a teenager, and now you are 55?
Adjust it for the age.

(3) Who says the belief needs to be this way? What gives
them the right to say this? Are they just transferring
their own belief to you? Don’t be willing to accept it.
Form your own. Give it some space.

(4) Who will be upset if you change this belief? The fear
of losing someone, confronting someone on their beliefs is
nerve wracking to most people. Do you really need to
confront them on it? No. Do you need to tell them they are
wrong? No. Do you need to let it go and form your own?
Yes.

Take more leaps of faith!

Change your beliefs, every single one that isn’t current
serving you. Stop, I’ll’ing…or when ing.

It takes space to open up and invite abundance and
prosperity into your life. If you life is too full with
excuses, what ifs, or someday you’ll, there isn’t any room.

Invest in yourself today and every day of your life, not
just your money.

Invest in your own energy, your personal power, your love
for yourself and others, your time, and your success.

The payoff is the biggest in the world…happiness…
living your life now and not later.

Be brave, not much, just a little. Take a leap of faith
purposely every day for the next week. When it works,
continue the process. One toe at a time.

Create the new space needed to invite abundance in. Go
ahead, go in. The waters fine. Stop waiting for the
eclipse marks to stop. They stop when you take the leap!

About the Author

Catherine Franz, a Certified Professional Marketing &
Writing Coach, specializes in product development, Internet
writing and marketing, nonfiction, training. Newsletters
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“In the sixth century of the sixth millennium, the gates of supernal [heavenly] wisdom will be opened, as will the wellsprings of earthly wisdom, preparing the world to be elevated in the seventh millennium.” The Zohar (a source text of Kabbalah)

The true value of a human being is determined primarily by the measure and the sense in which he has attained liberation from the self.
–Albert Einstein

Who are you? Are you a mother, father, child, friend, spiritual seeker, doctor, lawyer, teacher, business person? A husband or wife?

And what kind of person are you? A good person, a not-so-good person? Smart or stupid, graceful or clumsy? Are you talented, bold, wimpy, fearless, fearful, articulate, shy? Do you enjoy taking risks, or are you afraid to try new things? Do you like to let it all hang out, or are you shut up like a clam? Whatever your answers, you will almost certainly have a fair number of pretty definite beliefs and opinions about yourself. And those beliefs and opinions, whether expressed or not, will limit and define you as certainly as if they were made out of concrete and steel.

Several years ago a magnificent young tiger was imported from India and shipped to a local zoo in the States. A beautiful and expansive habitat was built for him, complete with waterfall, trees, rocks, valleys and caves. While the building was going on, the tiger was housed in a small temporary cage, approximately 30 by 30 feet. It spent its days continuously pacing the cage from one end to the other. This cage was originally intended to house the tiger on a very temporary basis for only a couple of weeks- but the building took longer than expected and the tiger actually remained in the cage for several months. When the habitat was finally complete, the cage was lowered into it, opened, and removed. The tiger almost immediately resumed pacing 30 feet forward and 30 feet back. It no longer needed the small cage to limit and confine it; this cage, which once surrounded the tiger, had been transplanted into the tiger s mind.

A similar mechansim is familiar to the people who train elephants. When the elephant is young and small, it is strongly tethered to something large and heavy; a strong stake or a tree. The elephant pulls and tugs, but cannot free itself, and eventually gives up, confining its movements to the length of the rope. As soon as this happens, the tree can be replaced by a small stake that the now much larger elephant could pull up in an instant. Only it doesn t. Stake, rope, and confinement have become indelibly associated in the elephant mind.

Does this ring any bells for you?

Do you ever say to yourself: I can t, I m just not that type ? If you answer no , look harder, because in one arena or another we all do. Some people can t parachute out of planes. Some of us just can t keep our houses organized. Some of us can t stop overeating or overdrinking. Some can t talk about our feelings. Some can t get ourselves to work, and others can t stop working. And we almost always think we know, in any given area, whether we have what it takes, or not.

Just like our zoological friends, the ties that bind us are almost always thicker, stronger and more real as they exist inside our heads than they are in the actual physical world. The way we react to our beliefs about ourselves, life, other people, and what we can and can t do is no different than the tiger s reaction to his months in the cage or the elephant s to his rope.

We don t start out life with fixed ideas about who we are and what we can and can t do, but we begin to develop them pretty quickly, and continue to reinforce them as we go along. If you decide as a small child that your ideas are not important, chances are that throughout life you will continue to act on that belief, avoiding sharing your ideas with others and thus having little influence on the people around you. This pattern of behavior, of course, will continue to ensure that very few people will seek out your opinions or advice, continuously providing more evidence for your original belief. This is one definition of a vicious cycle. However, remember that this doesn t make you unusual. Virtually every human being, no matter how functional his upbringing, has some fixed ideas about who he is and who he isn t.

But Kabbalah explains this phenomenon in a deeper way.

Since caught in the act of eating from the Tree of Knowledge in the Garden of Eden and exiled into a world of hardship, pain, death and the struggle for survival, we human beings have been imbued with feelings of fear, insecurity, shame, guilt, self-consciousness, failure, and the pervasive sense of being exiled from home. A good portion of our lives consists of trying to deny, overcome or compensate for these feelings. At first glance this seems like an enormous problem. It takes a massive amount of time and effort to constantly be fighting to overcome our inner flaws and fears. But in fact, this seminal event, with all of its challenging consequences, is neither a problem nor a mistake and actually has a Divine purpose.

Kabbalah explains that G-d first looked into the Torah (the Bible) and only then created the world. That means before G-d even created the world, He foresaw the entire scenario in the Garden of Eden, including the eating of the forbidden fruit and the exile that would follow. As paradoxical as it seems at first glance, this scenario is actually fundamental to creation itself.

Let me explain.

Part of the intent in Creation is that we should not remain passive recipients of G-d s largesse. Rather, G-d gave us the greatest gift of all the potential to become true partners in creation. This is a gift that was not given to even the most holy angels, but was reserved for us, specifically because we are souls in very physical bodies, and trapped within our fixed and limited sense of who we are and what s possible for us. Only because we are finite and disconnected from the truth do we have the ability to exercise free choice. And only those who are gifted with free choice have the power to create something new; to transform darkness into light.

Childhood is intentionally designed to reactivate and give a personal flavor to the limiting emotional states that were imprinted in human psyche during the exile from the Garden. Your particular experience and predispositions combine to create your ego-based identity, your persona. This part of you tells stories, gives opinions, makes judgments, has reactions, and is programmed to reinforce and defend itself in exactly these ways. It is on the one hand part of what defines you uniquely as you, but on the other a highly restrictive, limiting structure, like a piece of very dark, even opaque glass superimposed over a clear window. It is the most external, surface layer of who you are, which conceals all of the more internal layers. Because it s the most visible, it appears to be the most real.

But there is a truer you. And the purpose of each and every obstacle in your life and all of your reactions to those obstacles is to allow that truer you to shine through.

And at this time, when, as prophesied, the Divine wisdom of Kabbalah has become accessible to the average person, the time has come for just that to happen.

Every Olympic athlete has spent thousands upon thousands of hours testing and expanding his limits; jumping hurdles – or the equivalent – in order to access a latent power that would otherwise never be expressed and to break through the barriers of what is assumed to be possible, over and over again.

Whether or not you are an Olympic athlete, you have the same power to break through barriers in your own life. In the game of life, we face hurdles almost constantly. Often these hurdles seem just too high. Each time you run across a hurdle that seems just too high, you have a choice to make. You can stick with your familiar old story about who you are, back away from the hurdle and resign yourself to a smaller life. Or you can reach beneath and beyond the concealing glass into the unbounded potential of your truer self. There, you already have the untapped power to jump higher and farther than ever before, and in doing so expand the very boundaries of the person you ve assumed yourself to be.

Any time you do this, you ve taken a piece of darkness whether your own limiting stories, the obstacle in your way, your fear, resignation or self-doubt and used it as the impetus to draw more light, power and aliveness from the essence of who you are. That s one of the reasons that you re here.

Next time you hear yourself saying or thinking something like: I m just not the type , I can t , or I m afraid , think of the tiger and the elephant. Knowing that you re creating your own cage is the first step in breaking free. Then, just as an experiment, ask yourself what you would do if you were the type, if you could do it, or if you weren t afraid. If you ask yourself this question, you may be surprised at how clear and available the answers are.

Then, as a bonus, even though it just isn t you , even though you re scared, try taking action based on these answers and see what happens.

It s time to turn some darkness into light.

About the Author

Shifra Hendrie is a personal and spiritual coach who has been studying & teaching the principles of authentic Kabbalah for over 20 years. Her unique workshops deliver this deep transformational wisdom in a structured coaching environment, where it can be integrated and applied to core challenges of participants lives. To learn more about Shifra s practice or workshops, or to subscribe to her free Kabbalah ezine, log onto www.truerself.com, email hendrie@verizon.net, or call 973-290-0168.